Ghost of Kiamo Ko: Elphaba's dress

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Twister of Fate... or the Plot

If you're reading this... I am dead.

No, kidding. Obviously, I'm not dead. But that's immediately where my mind goes when I read a sentence starts with "If you're reading this". There's a whole trope about it, even.

Anyway, this post is going up after chapter 18 of The Ghost of Kiamo Ko is up, which is the chapter which changes everything.

So, I thought the time was right to discuss some of the plot changes I made and why I made them. I was originally going to do this in a video, but I eventually decided against it.

There were 3 big changes I made in GoKK from Rebecca, and several smaller changes I made either to fit the new plot caused by the big changes; or just to make the story my own. So, I'm going to talk about those 3 big changes.

WARNING: Spoilers for Rebecca ahead! If you haven't read the book, or seen the movie or seen the musical and you don't want to know what happens, STOP reading this now. 

The thing about Rebecca is that its a gothic novel. Meaning dark, angsty and quite frankly- depressing. Explains a lot, right? And whilst I don't mind gothic literature, changes had to be made to fit Wicked into Rebecca's universe and characters.

1) Rebecca's death:
Rebecca: She is an expert sailor with her own little boat and everything, and she dies in a boating accident.

GoKK: Sarima dies of a long illness. I changed this because of #3 on this list. In hindsight, I probably could have kept it the same, but it's simpler this way.

2) The dinner party:
Rebecca: It's not a dinner party in the novel, but an annual costume ball that Rebecca and Maxim used to host, and Maxim and the new Mrs de Winter are convinced to resurrect it. As the new Mrs de Winter is an artist, she is trying to design a costume. Mrs Danvers finds a draft of a sketch, and suggests that she might be inspired by one of the portraits of de Winter ancestors in the gallery. Specifically, one of Caroline de Winter, a woman all dressed in white with flowing dark hair.
The costume ball arrives, and Mrs de Winter is keeping her costume a secret from Maxim and Frank (AKA Avaric). When she comes downstairs, Maxim reacts badly. Turns out, it was the exact costume Rebecca wore for her last ball before her death.

GoKK: I changed this because obviously, a costume wouldn't work for Elphaba unless she could disguise her skin. And I find that singing works well as a talent for Elphaba because she is a talented singing in the Wicked book, and well... the musical is fairly obvious. LOL.

If you want to see the scene from the 1940 movie, you can see it here.

3) Maxim's revelation:
Rebecca: Much of this is the same as you see in GoKK. They got married, Rebecca revealed herself as a bitch and had numerous affairs. They hated each other, she died and Maxim confesses his love for his new wife.
However- Maxim's confession was very different. Yes, he hated Rebecca and loves his new bride... but (SPOILER) he also killed Rebecca. I KNOW!!! He went down to the boathouse to confront her about her most recent affair (with a gun), she said she was pregnant and it wasn't his- although it would be raised as his- and he was so mad he shot her. (Although in some adaptations, he pushes her and she falls and hits her head and dies that way). And then he put her in the boat, took it out of the bay and sank it.
And that's why he keeps the new Mrs de Winter at a distance.

GoKK: Honestly, no matter the circumstances, I just couldn't see Fiyero committing murder. Or I didn't want him to commit murder, haha.


So that's that. The three big changes I made. Maybe you guys could see it differently. Maybe you really wanted Fiyero to have killed Sarima (like Julia). Thoughts? Comments?

The Wicked Trio: "Fancy" warm up

I put this video on Twitter, the "Ozian is an Official language" FB page and my tumblr but I had to share it here too.

Lucy Durack (Glinda) posted this video of her, Jemma Rix (Elphaba) and Steve Danielsen (Fiyero) lip synching to Iggy Azalea's "Fancy" on the way to the theatre for a double show day.

And it's the best. Enjoy.

Fanfiction Fans: A new Facebook Page

So, if you're reading this you've either stumbled on to my blog somehow (which somehow always surprises me, even after 2 years of having said blog) or you've just read my Author's Note for chapter 15 (technically it's the 16th chapter posted but as chapter 1 was the prologue, I'm referring to it as ch 15, ok?) of Ghost of Kiamo Ko.

Which means if you read the aforementioned AN, you're here about my new Facebook page. So, there is the link and here is some information about it.

Dude, you already run 2 Facebook pages. 
Yes. Yes, I do.

Ozian is an official langugage was created because when editing my Facebook profile one day, I was outraged you can claim Simlish, Pirate and Sarcasm as "Languages I speak" but not Ozian, which is totally a language. And since then, it's really developed into a Wicked fangirling page for myself, so I don't annoy all my non-Wicked fans Facebook friends. Where I try and use as much as the Ozian vocab as possible, because it's fun.

I am still very proud of the Wicked Debating Society page, even if it hasn't taken off as much as I would have liked, and quite often has a habit of falling into "Carlie is stuck on a fanfiction and needs some help". But the point of it was because talking in-depth about Wicked (as in plot, characters, etc) is fun and quite frankly, 140 characters on Twitter is not enough. I think mostly I'm just proud of the profile/cover pic.... still.

What is the point of this page?
There are actually several points to this page.

1. You can recommend good (or bad if you want) fanfics you are reading/have read.
2. You can discuss/question/rant about issues regarding fanfic in general.
3. If you have an idea for a fic, but it's not something you feel strongly enough about to want to write yourself, you can donate it to the page in case someone is looking for an idea.

Do fics have to be Wicked related?

Nope. Any fandom, pairing, genre you want. You never know who will be interested. For instance, I'm reading a quite good Harry Potter parody fic I've found (the first parody fic I've actually enjoyed), and posted said link on the page. Of course, I'm sure there will be many Wicked fics on there, but any and all is welcome.

So, this page isn't about your fanfiction?

No. I'm sure at some point I will be posting about my own stuff, but no. This is just a page for those who like reading, writing and talking about fanfiction.

I have debated in the past establishing a Facebook page for my own writing but a few things keep stopping me. Mainly,

a) Would anyone be actually interested?

b) Is it weird (or stuck up) if I do that? Or is it just marketing myself as an author on as many platforms  of social media as I can? 

In conclusion, check out the page! And get involved! 

My Weekend in Review

This weekend I was in Adelaide for the Cabaret Festival. Of course, this time last year I was in the same place at around the same time seeing Idina Menzel, which is very hard to top!

We saw two shows of the festival, although there were more we would have liked to have seen if time had allowed.

High School Disco:

On Friday night, we went and saw High School Disco, Tim Campbell's show to celebrate his debut album of the same name. I was so excited for this show, because not only is the album great, but because I'd been waiting since 2010 for the chance to meet Tim Campbell. Tim was my 2nd Fiyero I ever saw in Wicked, and my favourite (well, one of them. I have 2).

Me with Tim Campbell :)

High School Disco is all about celebrating the music of the 70s and 80s. Of course, I wasn't born in either of those decades (I was born in 1990. But I was conceived in the 80s if that counts?), but I knew the majority of the songs anyway, because it's great music. Plus, my mum is a huge 80s music fan, and an even bigger fan of 80s movies- which feature so many of the most famous songs from the era.

The show was awesome, and it captured the feel of a disco in high school... ok, yes my high school discos were in the 2000s, but from what I can tell the only thing that's really changed is the music.

Tim posing with the gift bag we got him.

And yes, I met Tim :D And he was just as funny and lovely as I'd always imagined from seeing him on TV and Twitter. And now I can cross that off my bucket list (not even joking. It was on there). We got him a little gift, just some chocolate and wine and he liked it, so I'm stoked.








Picture Perfect:

On Saturday night, we went and saw Picture Perfect, a song cycle written by Scott Evan Davis and starring (amongst others) David Harris, Amity Dry and Johanna Allen.
This was my first song cycle, I'd never even heard of it until we booked tickets! It was a beautiful show, with some lovely music. And the whole cast were amazing, everyone is so talented! I don't even think I could pinpoint a favourite part of the show.

Me with Amity Dry

I was also very excited to get to meet Amity Dry, I played her first album The Lighthouse on repeat for several months when it first came out. And she was so lovely, and I got both her albums signed.

With David Harris

And as always, it was lovely to have a chat with David Harris. I think I was most excited to give him his present (he's moving to the US soon...ish), Kelly and I were so proud of it! Haha. I love giving people gifts, especially gifts we've put a lot of effort into making (also, the bag was quite heavy and I'd been lugging it around all night, haha).

This is what we had made for David. Cool, huh?  Sydney Harbour, Bondi Beach and the Maitland Town Hall- because that's where he's from. 

So that was my weekend. Finished off with heart palpitations and an inability to breathe last night which meant I had to call myself an ambulance. Scariest moment of my life, and a real bummer on which to finish the weekend. (I'm ok now. Mostly). 

My Story

I originally wrote this in 2012 to help a friend with a blog she was starting. Going through some things today, I found it and decided to share it here. I updated it a little, but it's pretty much unchanged. 

This is basically the story of what made me the person I am today. 

You know how everyone wants to be friends with a fictional character? They want to go to Hogwarts with Harry, Ron and Hermione; or hang out with Rachel, Monica and the gang for a cup of coffee at Central Perk? Because these characters- who are real people to us, that we talk about in our daily lives and only get to catch up with once a week (if in a TV show, that is), have these most amazing friendships.

They are always there for one another, love and support one another unconditionally and are unbelievably loyal and supportive. Some of them have been friends since childhood, and are pretty much family, they know each other better than they know themselves. They have a history and they never fail to make their friends feel good about themselves.

For me, having a friendship like the ones I used to read about or see in movies or on TV were something I never thought truly existed.

Don’t get me wrong, I thought I was going to have the whole childhood-friend, BFF’s for life type thing. I had a wonderful best friend in primary school who I made in the early days of kindergarten. And for 3 years, we were inseparable.  Some of my earliest memories are of countless afternoons at her house, making up dance routines to the Spice Girls or Aqua (hey, it was the 90’s); playing make believe in her backyard pretending to be the girls from the Baby-Sitter’s Club books; and she introduced me to the Wizard of Oz (for which I am forever grateful for… despite now having seen and love Wicked).

I always was friendly to everyone and everyone was friendly to me, but every afternoon when my mum picked me up from school and said “who did you play with today?” it was always the same answer- my best friend (who I shall leave nameless, although the chances of her finding this are unlikely).

And then in third grade, thanks to a seating plan, my best friend was placed next to the popular girl in our grade- who did not like me. And eventually, I began noticing that more and more, my friend would not wait for me at recess and lunch, but go off with this other girl and her friends. Eventually, I got up the courage to ask if we were okay (that was a big deal for me. I did and still do loathe confrontation). She said we were still friends, she just wanted to play with the other girls for a while.

She also added that the popular girl didn’t really like me (nothing I hadn’t already guessed).

And I accepted that. After all, there were people in our grade I didn’t especially like (although I was always nice to them- I can’t say I was too fond of the popular girl), and I felt like it would be mean not to let her make new friends- she was perfectly entitled to that.

Except by third grade, everyone had already formed their friendship groups, and I didn’t feel right intruding. So, I started bringing a book (well, several usually- I was a fast reader) to school, and that was how I’d spend my recess and lunch.

But every day, when mum picked me up and asked “who did you play with today?” I’d still give her the same answer I always had before. To this day, I’m not sure why. Maybe I just didn’t want to admit that although I got along with everyone, I really only had one friend… and maybe I didn’t even have her anymore.

I think she must have noticed something eventually… when we stopped playing together at least once a week after school. But I was able to hide it for a while.

I have a memory… I must have confessed to her what was going on eventually and mum convinced me call her and find out what was going on. And as soon as my friend got on the phone, I burst into tears and held the phone out to mum. Mum spoke to my friend’s mum and it went from there. It seemed to get better for a while, but we still didn’t hang out together at school or after.

In fourth grade, we were in different classes. My friend was with her new friends, and I was alone. I remember one day, seeing her alone on the playground, alone. That was weird, because as I said, she was now in the popular group. I asked her (because I always made a point of saying ‘Hi’ when I saw her- we had been best friends for three years) if everything was okay. She said that her parents might be getting divorced, and I didn’t know what to say.  I said something, said goodbye and left.

I wished for years after I had said something, because I never saw her again. She stopped coming to school. I asked her brother once if she was okay, but whatever he said I didn’t catch (he was playing handball at the time, so I kind of interrupted), and I felt rude asking him to repeat it. But I’m pretty sure the gist was that she’d moved away with her mum.

The rest of primary school was me trying to find new friends. Several times I thought I had. There was a girl in my class in fourth grade who we were good friends for a few months… until she moved away. And we kept in touch for a while after she left, but eventually, that stopped. When a new girl came to our school (from England of all places, which is one of my favourite countries), I was asked to buddy with her and show her around.

We were on and off friends from fourth grade all through sixth grade (where primary school ends in Australia). After a few months, she’d decide she didn’t like me and she’d begin not talking to me, cutting me out of conversations and with our other friend who we hung out with.

And now the part I don’t usually tell people. I was quiet, enjoyed school, loved my teachers and loved reading and writing (this isn’t the part I keep quiet). And to the kids I went to school with, it was a bit odd. Especially in fifth grade, when Harry Potter and the Goblet of fire came out, mum saw an interview with JK Rowling, thought I’d like it and she and dad bought me the first two books. (I still say this was fate. My parents were not in the habit of just buying me books. Usually if I wanted a particular book, I had to hope I got it for Christmas or my birthday- whichever was closest). And I fell in love with it- as anyone who knows me today can attest to.

Again, it was odd. I remember a kid (from another grade so I had no clue who he was) literally stopping one day as he walked past the spot where I was sitting and reading one morning before the bell and asking me “you’re the girl who likes to read, aren’t you? The bookworm?” And my awkward reply of “Yeah…” 

So, you have a little girl who loves reading, writing, Harry Potter, and school is not the bane of her existence (well, maths and sport weren’t fun; and I had no friends, but I liked learning). And then- because I clearly wasn’t enough of an outcast already (this is the secret part), I got head lice.

In hindsight, that isn’t so terrible. It sucks, and it wasn’t fun, but it’s a perfectly normal part of childhood. Everyone usually gets them at some stage, right? And it’s actually a sign you have good hair hygiene, because they only like clean hair. It didn’t help either probably, that I had siblings who were at the time I think 5 and 4, which is right in that age group where it’s common to get them- and they spread.

But at the time, it was the most horrifying thing that had ever happened to me. And once it got out… people whispered, pointed, avoided me at all costs and were just horrible. I was 10. And trying to get rid of head lice in a house with small children and at a school with many small children, is a war. A very long war. They’d get better, then come back. I hated them.

So, this on and off “friend” of mine, was… not thrilled with the prospect of hanging around me and possibly getting head lice. I also had dandruff and eczema on my scalp. I remember once, when I said about the eczema, this girl accused me of lying because it was “impossible” to get eczema there… (FYI, it’s not).

This went on for until we finished school. I’m not going to rehash every moment, but in the midst of all this, there was another girl I had become friends with (we bonded over our love of books) until she too, moved away. We kept in touch for a while (through letters) and then one day, one of the girls in our group (yes, this was during an on-phase) told me that my friend had been calling me names behind my back before she’d moved.

I naively believed her, and wrote to my friend asking if that was true. That was all. No accusation, just wondering if it was true. A few days later, her mother (who opened and read all her mail) rang me, and told me to stay away from her daughter and if I contacted them again, she’d call the police. To this day, I have no idea what I did or said that was worthy of that.

And so, I was alone again. And I was 11. I had a few teachers who tried to help at times, but because I never said anything, never acted like anything was wrong if I could help it; and when a teacher did ask what was going on, I never gave the full story.

Partly because it felt like dobbing, but partly because I really wasn’t sure what was going on myself. One day, these girls had liked me and then they didn’t. And occasionally, they would like me again.

I was both excited and terrified to start high school. Because of where I lived, I was going to a different high school, where I knew no one. This was both a good thing and a bad thing. I was still me (Harry Potter obsessed, loved school, reading and writing), I was still waging war against the head lice, but I was eager for a new start. To make new friends, and maybe have a friendship like I’d always read about and wanted so desperately.

I’d met some lovely girls on orientation day who also loved Harry Potter and I’d hoped I’d be in their class (I wasn’t). I made some friends, and after a while I was invited to join the group which contained the majority of girls in our class. For the first time, I felt included, like I was part of the popular group. No one knew about the head lice, and I was confident I was winning that war.

I was completely optimistic, that I was making new friends. Real friends. And then one day a few months into the year, they turned around and said that they didn’t really like me anymore and wanted me to stop hanging around them. I was stunned and hurt, but I agreed and left.

Eventually, I found out it was really one girl who didn’t like me, and the rest (well, some of them) had just gone along with that.

And I fell into that old pattern from primary school, alone, bringing books. I tried for a short time, refusing to be cut out of the group and allow history to repeat itself, but I was tired. I couldn’t do it for long… I gave up.

I remember one day, we were in PE, one girl in that group- one lovely girl, who to this day, I remember this moment and am overwhelmed with gratitude for her; began crying at the end of class. When my teacher (also lovely and a huge support to me throughout the year, and who I am still in touch with to this day) asked what was wrong, she confessed that she didn’t like the way the other girls were treating me. And I was amazed that someone actually did care.

She added to me after, that it didn’t mean she liked me and that she thought it was weird how much I liked Harry Potter, but I didn’t care. Because she had cared enough to feel bad about what was happening to me. Besides, it is kind of weird how much I love Harry Potter (and now Wicked), but I’ve just accepted that weirdness now.

By this stage, it should surprise no one that, once again, I hadn’t told my parents what was going on. It did come out eventually, of course (my frequent breakdowns at home kind of hinted that something was wrong), but I didn’t feel right saying anything. There was nothing my parents could do, and I didn’t want them fighting my battles for me.

Towards the end of seventh grade, when this had been going on for months… I got really depressed. It wasn’t just all the drama at school, it was that I was a 12 year old girl who wanted a bit more independence at home, I was trying to figure out who I was… becoming a teenager is a big deal. I didn’t feel pretty (the fact I still was fighting head lice and everyone knew about it by now didn’t help), or smart, or worthy of anything.

You know that game where you write your name on a piece of paper, and everyone has to write a compliment or something positive about you on it? I keep mine every time I do that. We did it in English in the midst of all this, and you can tell how many friends I had.

The majority of comments are vague, impersonal things like “nice shoes”, “neat uniform”, “nice teeth” (to this day I’m not sure if that was mocking or not- I have a rather large overbite and a gap between my front teeth- think Hermione Granger, but crooked). No one really knew me, and I believed that no one cared. One girl (the one who didn’t like me in the first place) even once hacked into my email and was talking to my uncle on MSN, pretending to be me. When we found out and I confronted her, her excuse was that my password wasn’t hard to guess. (I still don’t know how that justifies anything).

I’m not sure exactly when it started, but towards the end of the year… that was my low point. And I began thinking about suicide and death. Not that I was actually going to go through with it, but I remember sitting at recess one day and jotting down just notes about how and where it might happen.

Again, it’s not that I genuinely wanted to kill myself, it’s just that I believed 100% that if I was to die, not one person- not even my family- would miss me, and that the world would probably be a better place if I wasn’t in it.

I was pretty much hastily referred to the guidance counsellor after that. I remember my English teacher coming to get me from I think maths… she didn’t say where we were going, just that I was needed (she may have said it, but I was just thrilled to get out of maths or whatever class we were in). On the way, she asked if everything was okay. And I, in my old habit, cheerily responded with “yep!”

Sometimes I wish I could kick my 12 year old self. Why didn’t I ever say that something was wrong? Even now, at 24, my natural response is to say “yep!” or “good” if people ask “how are things? How’s it going?” even if it’s not.

Seeing the guidance counsellor helped a lot, and I recommend that to everyone. It’s lovely having someone to talk to, who can give you advice. After confessing what had been happening pretty much all year with the girls in my class, my frequent visits began to discuss home life and my general unhappiness.

Eventually, at the end of the year, my parents were called in for a meeting. And the four of us (my parents, the counsellor and me) discussed everything.  I was supposed to stay in class, but at recess, I went to go meet a few girls from another class I’d been hanging around with for a little while… and saw them running away from view before I could get there. I went back to the office in tears, and mum and dad came back to take me home.

My strongest memory of that night, is me and my mum talking in the lounge room, and mum asking me why I could tell all this stuff to a stranger (albeit a trained guidance counsellor), but not her. Did I think she was a bad mother, that I couldn’t come talk to her about all this stuff?

And that got me upset, and still gets me upset to this day. I love my mother. I really do. She’s wonderful. But I also remember telling her at seven that I wanted to be an author when I grew up, and mum saying “why don’t you get a real job?”

I think I was afraid of her judging me. And I do remember once, a year or so later trying to explain what I was feeling to her… I used the analogy that it was like my mind was a book, but it was in a foreign language and I couldn’t understand it. Which is honestly how I felt. I was 13 or 14, a teenager, trying to find myself.

My mum’s response was “don’t give me that crap.”

And I think… which I know is stupid… but maybe I was afraid if I did tell her what was happening, how I felt and what I was feeling… she wouldn’t love me anymore. She wouldn’t like me. That says a lot about my state of mind at the time. 

I was so used to “friends” and people not liking me, I wasn’t even able to open up to my mum for fear of the same. If they didn’t like me, why would my mum? Or why should my mum? Honestly, there’s still a lot I don’t tell my mother because I don’t feel like she’d understand- like me writing fanfiction. And I don’t want her to make me feel bad about myself, when I have so little about myself to feel good about. This is my mother who said nothing for 6 months while I planned a trip to Singapore, then the day before we left, told me how stupid it was going overseas to see a musical, and what was wrong with just going on a holiday for the sake of a holiday and lie on a beach somewhere? (I'd be bored stiff, that's what's wrong with it).

At the end of seventh grade, I met a girl (at swim school), who would prove herself to be a great friend to me the next year and all the years since. And through her and a few girls in my new class (I was moved to give myself yet another fresh start), I finally made good friends for the first time in my life.

I kept waiting for the other shoe to drop, and for them to suddenly decide they didn’t like me, but it didn’t happen. But I did notice, that I began to change. I never gave my own opinion, I always agreed with whatever they were saying. Maybe I thought if I didn’t agree, they’d stop being my friends, I don’t know. But it took years to break that habit. Oddly, since being a teacher, I’ve slipped back to being a teenager again.

Eighth grade was fun. I had the most amazing English teacher (again, who I’m still in touch with) who encouraged my writing and my love of books. I still have books amongst my favourites that she told me to read (Chinese Cinderella, Goodnight Mister Tom). And through her, I began to regain a shred of my self-esteem. Because someone actually thought I was good at writing and took it seriously- I’m not sure how seriously my parents have ever taken it). Although I do remember my writing at 13 and cringe. 

 I admit, even now, I doubt whether my writing is actually a talent or whether it’s just something I do a lot (and I do mean a lot. I just posted my 74^th fanfiction- I started writing and posting my first year of uni). Which makes receiving compliments very awkward, because I always blush and have no idea what to say.

Ninth grade was a good year. I had really good friends. (And I noticed/developed my particular talent for getting my friends hooked on things I loved, but that’s another story). And a few of the girls in that group that had made me so miserable in seventh grade began to talk to me, which I was grateful even if they didn’t like me still, we could be civil young adults to one another. And it wasn’t perfect. My sister started seventh grade that year, and as a proud big sister who loves her family, I liked to say hi to my sister when I saw her.

According to one of my friends, this was embarrassing. Comments that implied that were always followed by “no offence”, but I always did take offence. Was I a bad sister? Because I wanted to acknowledge my sister when I passed? I tried to brush those comments off, but they always hurt. Because I’ve always tried to be a good sister and daughter.

But all good things end eventually. This time, I moved at the end of ninth grade. We kept in touch for a while, but only one (my swim school friend), has remained consistently in touch over the years… even when we sometimes don’t talk for months.

I was scared… moving and starting a new school. Scared of it happening all over again. I didn’t eat at school for the first three weeks of tenth grade, because I felt sick all the time. And I wondered if it was me, whether I was incapable of being genuinely liked. And what kind of person was I, if no one ever really liked me? What did that say about me? Sometimes I still feel that way.

And for a few months, I was dreadfully homesick for Sydney. And then it got better. I didn’t make any real friends or good friends,  but by now I was happy to spend every moment not in class in the library (the librarians and my teachers liked me). And I was still getting along with everyone… people in our grade knew me, and I had no clue who they were. I was still the girl who was weirdly obsessed with Harry Potter, but I didn’t have any real issues.

And the whole head lice thing was slowly getting better and if anyone knew about it, I didn’t know they did. (They were finally gone in the last year of high school, and that was a wonderful help to my self-confidence).

And one of the girls in the group from my old school, sent me a beautiful email one day, completely out of the blue (which I hope like hell hasn’t gotten lost in subsequent moves) to apologise. I cried, and I can’t find the words to tell you how much I appreciated her effort and the courage it must have taken to write the email.

I forgave her, of course. I’ve forgiven them all, because I don’t want to have to carry around hate for the rest of my life. It’s bad enough I have these scars and this crippling self-doubt and self-esteem issues left to live with, without having to carry around hate for other people. It’s just not worth it.

But those years of primary school and especially seventh grade had left their mark. My self-esteem was still very, very low. I rarely spoke up in class, even if I was sure I knew the answer, because there was a small voice in my head that said if I was wrong, people would laugh at me. I’ve had more breakdowns in class than I really want to admit, just stressing so much over school. Including one memorable occasion in a Legal Studies lesson…. I had a major panic attack. Which is awkward when it happens at school. Everyone at church is used to it by now. Luckily, my teacher was also used to it (people breaking down, not me specifically) and was great about it. And he raised the excellent point it was much better to break down in class rather than the actual HSC exam (HSC is the Higher School Certificate. It's the big exams you take at the end of high school in Australia and if you want to go to uni, it counts for that too).

To this day, I feel that… people have so much faith in me. So much belief in my abilities, more than I ever have. And as a perfectionist, I have high expectations of myself. And I feel that if I don’t meet those standards, of myself and of what others believe I am capable of, that I’ve let them down. And I hate letting people down, because I know the feeling.

When I survived high school and sat my HSC, I got an 80 in Legal Studies. Now, that’s really good for me. Usually, as hard as I try, I’m an 65-75 type of student (except in maths, but oh well). So, I was pretty happy with an 80. But I wondered for months afterwards if I’d let down my teacher, because I’m sure he believed I was capable of getting… maybe not 100, but 90 (Ok, that could be me speaking again).

I still struggle with the self-esteem thing. It wasn’t until I was nearly eighteen that I felt like learning to drive was something I was capable of (I’m 24 and STILL on my L’s. Although I went for my P's a few weeks ago. I failed, but I went for them. It counts).

It also helped that when I was 15, after we moved and I’d started at my new school, that I became a Christian and started going to church and found my church family. Yes, for the first few months (and at various low moments in my life over the past few years), I seriously wondered if they really liked me or whether they were just friendly to me because they like my sister (who is much more outgoing than me), or because we’re Salvos and that’s what we do!

And it took ages before I was willing to admit my own opinions and not just agree with what was being said. But it helped that all my quirks- the weird Harry Potter obsession (and now the Wicked obsession), my writing, my emotional breakdowns for no real reason, my music tastes (which no one really likes)- they embraced them all and supported me with them, because they know it’s important to me and part of who I am. And I can’t tell you how grateful I am for them, and how much I miss them all now (because of me living in the middle of nowhere and everything).

The last three places I ever expected to make good friends, real friends like the ones I’d wanted for years; were Twitter, uni and the Wicked stage door in Perth. But I did. 

Uni was fun. Throughout my BA I made my first best friend, and all that drama of high school was gone. The Dip Ed was a full on year where I had multiple breakdowns, wondering what the hell was I going to teach anyone, and why did I ever think I could do this? But my beautiful friends, who have proved themselves to be real and wonderful friends, got me through it. And likewise, encouraged (well, tolerated) my obsessions and quirks. I admit, I was afraid that come graduation, they’d fade away like so many have before them, but so far I’ve mostly been proved wrong (although it is easier now with Facebook and internet).

And in the last few years, I’ve gotten back in touch with my first best friend from primary school, and I’ve travelled interstate to see her twice (yes, one time was to see Wicked). I’m Facebook friends with several girls from primary school and from that group in seventh grade.

For a really long time, I felt it was my fault that people didn’t like me. That if I had talked less about Harry Potter, or something, people would have liked me and wanted to be my friends. Honestly, I still feel this way a lot. You'd be surprised how much I worry if the people I meet through musicals really like me or if they're just being polite. 

It took me years- and even now I have to remind myself sometimes, that it’s not my fault. Yes, I love learning. It’s why I’m a teacher (well, one of the reasons).

Yes, if I find something that speaks to me (Harry Potter, Wicked, etc.) I get very passionate and obsessed with it.

I was quiet. I’m an introverted person, who is very shy and doesn’t like change (I’m not as quiet now, I don’t think).

For a long time, I felt bad saying anything specific about what happened. I just kept it simple saying “I didn’t really have friends” or “I had trouble with friends at school”, because in my head, it didn’t feel like bullying. I wasn’t getting punched or beaten or threatened.

I was just… not liked. And excluded, and ignored. Which I know now is still bullying. Sometimes the worst kind. “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me”? LIES.

Broken bones may ache when it rains, but they heal. Sometimes I’m not sure if words ever stop hurting. Why else do we remember them so clearly?

It’s a fact of life not everyone is going to get along, I know that. But I will never understand why some people feel it’s okay to be mean to the people they don’t like. I still rant to anyone who feels the need to say nasty things about celebrities they don’t like- not they don’t like their acting skills, or the music they do, but as people- when they’ve never met them.

Bullying- any kind of bullying is horrible. And it affects you (I won’t say “the victim” because I hate that word) for life. Being a teacher? Do you know how crazy it sounded to me that I’m in charge of these kids (me? In charge? Are you nuts?)? And that they’re going to listen to me and do what I say? My own siblings don’t do that!

But it can get better. It was a great moment for me when I left high school and decided I wasn’t going to contact anyone. If they really liked me, they would contact me. And a few do. There are times, when I have to stop and just look at things. Because it seems incredulous to me, that I have friends. Who actually, genuinely like me. All around the world. It just doesn’t seem real. 

I know what it’s like to feel so incredibly alone. To feel like this hell is never going to end, and to feel just so tired so having to keep putting on a brave face and a smile. And I know how much talking to people can help. I don’t know whether this will help anyone, but if someone has or is going through something vaguely similar, but feels bad or guilty for wanting to speak up- don’t.

I still can’t talk about this sort of stuff with my mum. I hope one day I can. But I’ve found it easier to talk to close friends, or yes, guidance counsellors. But this- typing this out now, is the first time I’ve ever talked about everything at once, from primary school, right through to uni and now. And I may have cried the whole way through, but it feels therapeutic doing it. Looking at everything in perspective.

No one should be made to feel bad about who they are, and what they love. Whether it’s Harry Potter, Wicked or whatever. Things speak to us. That’s why they’re made. Writers write books to create a world for their readers, to make their characters feel like friends, to give you messages and experiences and something real to take from it all.

It’s why (besides the catchy music) I watch Glee. It has flaws, but it has this incredible message and heart about it, about embracing who you are. It’s taken me years to be able to say “This is who I am”, but I can now. And I like who I am. But I sometimes wonder if I’ll ever stop wondering if other people like who I am too. 

The Ghost of Kiamo Ko: Elphaba's Wedding Dress

Thanks to Maddy (Ultimate Queen of Cliffies) and Lucy (heatqueen) who helped me pick Elphaba's wedding dress for this chapter :)

For some reason, I was obsessed with Elphaba having a tea-length wedding gown.